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The art of plunging into the water

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Summer time, hot weather, … Guided by locals we reached a super nice spot, a natural pool. You are considered one of them (locals) when you jump into the cold water, no questions asked. Only the «locals» are brave enough…

Did I try? Of course I did. I dived into the river once, twice… it was really fun. Not two times the same way, but for the first dive I did it my own way. After that, and in between jumps I took some time to watch the «in-the-water-for-first-time» style of the rest of the people around. I don’t recall two people asking the same question or diving into the same way.

Any questions before we start? Some just asked one question, if it was deep enough to jump, to dive headfirst, from the platform of rocks, and others didn’t ask at all.

How will you do it? I saw who progressively got into the water, who did not get wet above the wrist, conservative at first, risking more at each essay…

Time to action? 0, no questions. Seconds after asking. Minutes, eternity (never went into the water).

Any Support team with you? No, I want to try alone. But also who wanted or needed to jump off hand-in-hand, who asked their colleagues which was the best way to do it, a group of friends just jumping (Fear out!) after seeing the first one diving in…

Style? Any support material with you? There were who just waited until they thought no one was looking (they didn’t like being observed), others that appreciate and liked being cheered up, also who looked for the approval for the «go! it’s safe» from the friend who just jumped in before and was looking from the other side of the river.

Most of us, when we are challenged by something new, we tend to approach it from the closest position to our comfort zone. After that, when we feel more and more safe we are able to try differently. It is ok when there is someone to ask, someone to rely on. It can be scary when we do not know if water will be too cold, too deep or dangerous. So listen to your guts, what do they tell you?

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Inner voice vs. pros&cons. Ready? Fight!

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Every day we chose, we decide. When the issues we deal with are familiar, simple, we go for it unconsciously. But when we face an important decision, we need some help. And for that we have our inner voice. And she will start telling you: you should do it, don’t accept it, move away, take it, leave it, buy it… In a quiet or loud way.

So here you are, in doubt, uncertain about the «what if», the scenario you will have after the decision. And you decide to write a pros&cons list. You do it because there is a conflict between your nature (or your status quo) and what that «rebel» voice is whispering (or shouting, who knows).

Ready for a good fight? Go!

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You have already made a decision. You make a pros&cons list just to confirm, reassure yourself or to have moral support.  You will find as many pros or cons (depending on what it will imply) as needed. And the main, true reason will be written there.

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There is an opportunity, you did not go for it. It just appeared, unexpected. The Inner voice says: why not? it can be fun. even though it’s scary I should give it a try. But, hold on… it’s disrupting your easy going life. So you write a list just to see if  the answer will show up there. Pros, cons.. pros, cons.. and after a while looking at it, you decide, also listening to your voice. In fact, you were always in Round 1, but .. needed to check there was nothing too strong to start the adventure.

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You are too afraid of what is different, you are averse to risk…. Or you listen to who is too conservative and don’t want to see you explore. But you still write the list. But it be of any help? You will work too hard on cons. You will shut up your inner voice trying to convince her that staying where you are is the more reasonable thing to do. Cons where very strong…  Better not to move. And you will regret this moment in the future.

 

Years ago, when facing multiple-choice exams we were said not to re-read too many times what we would mark. Read, decide, go through it once more and continue.

Making choices in life is a similar thing, hesitate if you want, re-read, listen to your inner voice. Decide. You will not regret it. You explored, balanced and moved on. Do not allow yourself to reach «round 3».