In the previous post Explanations, motives and timing. Actions talk about us, we took a look at the “Why, When and How” that defines our truly personality. In today’s post I would like to elaborate a bit more on the Why, on its impact on us and what surrounds us (colleagues, organizations, society). As an essential ingredient of that “The Why” we see two different kinds of people:
Takers: Who are self-servers in there interactions: What can you do for me?
Givers: Most of their actions are based on a What can I do for you?
So, givers, they take the worst part in the P2P business of interaction between givers and takers. They put a lot of effort. They spend a lot of time trying to improve the team at a high cost for them. Bad for them, good for their organization. They are the key stone for team building, for collaboration and great motivators. But, be careful and remember that they need to be handled with care mainly when they are surrounded by Takers, because we can lose them. They can get frustrated.
We dedicate a lot of time and energy to our organization, there is a lot of us on their success or failure, on the speed of change, … And because we never leave a 100% our personal life out of the workplace neither who we are (behavior=our moral compass + our mood + background + a response to others actions + many other things) we can not afford loosing givers on the way.
Adam talks about 3 possible ways that will create a “net” of successful givers:
- Protect them from burnout
- Encourage help-seeking
- Keep the wrong people off the bus
I highly recommend you watching this TED Talk by Adam Grant, enjoy it.